At times, it can be easy to understand why so many guys are just like you. They get flustered with the idea of approaching a woman, when the timing is right, and so on. And thrown in a little flirting and body language signals, and you have a recipe for confusion for many guys. The thing you should keep in mind, is that it does not have to be so confusing to you. You can learn all you need to know about body language, flirting, and when to approach a woman and boost your personal life and your success with women.

Here are a few dating tips for men that you should be made aware of:

1. Start off with using your body language. Before you even open up your mouth, a woman is already going to have an impression of you. And this comes from your body language. When you know how to use it in a way that signals you are an alpha male, then women will start to take notice.

2. Learn to flirt from a distance. Before you even approach a woman, the flirting should be underway. You can use more than just your mouth to flirt with a woman. A sly smile, and your eyes can easily trigger attraction in a woman at a distance. This way, she’s already locked on you.

3. Approach a woman with your own “swagger.” You have to have your own style if you want to really make a lasting impression on a woman. When you do have your own style, she will notice this and this will make you seem more attractive, more interesting than the other guys in the room.

By: Chris Tyler

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Every guy wants to know how to flirt with a woman. Well after years of trial and error I have discovered the real secrets of flirting. Here’s how it works…

So after you see a girl that catches your eye, the first thing you think is “What do I say to her?” You’re also thinking, “How do I make sure I say the right things?” and “What are the best lines I can use?”

I have found the golden rule of flirting is NOT to use typical pick up lines. Don’t use some overused pick-up line you got from an email, a magazine or a website. I will go on to say there are exceptions to every rule. I’ve seen guys use these lines in a way that the woman just laughs and that breaks the ice. It just goes to prove it not what you say, but how you say it. There is a topic of non-verbal communication I’ve written which addresses this.

Onward, please don’t say things like, “Hey, can I have your number? I seem to have lost mine.” or “Wow, I didn’t know angels flew so low!” Until you have mastered the art of flirting, do not use these types of lines.

Girls don’t like these lines because they devalue you as a man. You want to make her feel that supernatural gut level feeling called attraction.

Attraction can be turned on in ANY woman, if you know how. It’s NOT by using lame chat up lines.

FLIRTING is one of the attraction switches that turn women on. So how do I flirt…properly?

Before we get into the meat and potatoes of flirting, I’d like you to always consider the environment of your flirting. In particular, I want to note that office flirting is different from social flirting. It seems obvious but you want to be careful with flirting at work. It can be a great place to meet girls, but it can be very dangerous. Stick with flirting in social situations before moving it to the office. Use good judgment with certain flirting techniques.

So now, here are the essentials to flirting. Ingrain this into your flirting.

Smile

This is an all-important thing to do when flirting. Flirting is supposed to be fun and playful. You’ll also see when we get to humor that smiling shows you’re not serious. It makes you approachable. I’m sure you’d rather be talking to a girl who a smiling at you! Smiling is a universal expression that is done by all people in the world!

You do not have to be smiling throughout the entire flirt. That would be unnatural. Smiling is best on approaches and when you use arrogant humor which we will cover later.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is extremely important in all kinds of communication, particularly when flirting. You should always maintain a steady eye contact when talking to a woman. This needs to be done tactfully so you are not staring. That is creepy to women.

When I converse with women, I like to look at one eye, and hold for 1-2 seconds. Then I move to the other eye for another 1-2 seconds. She will see you are not staring but processing what she is saying. Please do not focus on doing this too much. It will show. I find this comes natural to most people. As soon as one of us is done speaking, I will momentarily break eye contact. The thing you want to remember is not to stare, but keep good eye contact.

Humor

If you look at any list of what women want in a man, you will see humor will always be in the top three. Humor is something you can convey immediately and serves as a great ice-breaker or opener too. You should NOT however, be a clown or jester. That will NOT trigger attraction. You need a slight arrogance or cockiness to your humor. Make your delivery light, fun and casual. Put her on the spot while making her laugh.

Here are some examples of arrogant humor:

“If you buy me a drink, you might get lucky tonight”

Girl says, “Hey you’re cool, I like you.”

You say, “I know, I like me too”

“Are you SURE you can keep your hands to yourself?”

The reason these work well is because women don’t typically expect it. It shows that you don’t care and aren’t trying to impress them. This actually increases your value.

Touch

Touching is one of the most sensitive flirting techniques. Women are extremely sensitive to this. You need to be careful when and how to touch. In short, a women will welcome your touch when she feels SAFE with you. Yes, you can touch a woman you’ve only known for five minutes. This is actually how you will build trust and safety. It obvious to keep the touching to non-private areas.

The best way to initiate touch is to guide a woman physically whether it be moving over to the bar or moving her out of the way on a busy sidewalk. I gently grab her arm with one hand and put my other hand on the small of her back (lower back) and guide her over. I will let go after I have moved her over.

If she touches you first then it’s game on! Don’t go too far too fast. If she touches you first, that is typically a tell-tale sign of interest.

Practice

There is a fine line to over-doing any flirting technique. I recommend to everyone to get out there and practice, practice, practice! As with any skill, you get better at it with PRACTICE! You will then be able to calibrate and fine tune your flirting.

Here are some other notes I’d like to mention when flirting:

Don’t worry about the outcome. You goal is to hone your flirting skills and see what works and what doesn’t in different types of situations. This is also very important to self-image. Many men fear rejection so bad it prevents them success. Flirting is a rejection-free method of meeting women.

Be positive and playful. Go in to any flirt with a fun and outgoing attitude. Women respond to this and it’s important you stay in that mode. Watch some sit-coms or read some funny jokes to get you in the mood.

Grooming. I always like to include this with most of interactions with women. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. So why not look your best? This mean shaving or trimming, smelling good or at least not smelling bad, and wearing proper clothing for the occasion. There are elements of dress to be addressed in another topic. But for now, look good.

Follow the ideas and techniques covered here and I guarantee you will be a good flirter. The most important part is to practice. So get out there and flirt!

By: Magnus Leven

By: Magnus Leven

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Are you a master or a disaster when it comes to flirting with men? Do you know what to say and what to do and to turn a crush into a potential date for this weekend? Do you know when to be subtle and when to be bold in your flirting tactics? If, until now, you still haven’t mastered the art of flirting then chances are your love life can use some improvement. Fortunately, flirting with men does not have to be rocket science and you can learn it with plenty of determination and practice.

Don’t give it away

The beauty of flirting with men is its subtlety-you can let him know that you like him without putting your pride on the line. Make sure that you remember this when planning your flirting strategy. The goal is to be suggestive and not slutty. It’s one thing to wear your freshly shampooed hair down and twirl it in your fingers, it’s another thing to wear a thong under your jeans and bend over so he can see.

Body talk

What you say with your body is just as important as what you say with your mouth. Sometimes, you may be putting forth a body language that is not at all inviting and you don’t even realize it. For instance, if you tend to cross your arms in front of your chest, this is a subconscious way of warding him off and putting up a shield in front of you.

Tease him

Once you know how to flirt with men and it has actually worked to your favor, don’t let your guard down so fast. Once you see that he has asked you out, don’t jump for joy or grovel at his feet. Remember, it was the mystery that got him to ask you out and it’s also the mystery that will keep him wanting more.

By: Tina L. Jones

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Flirting can be great fun, but most guys lack the confidence to flirt successfully… so I want to share with you some of my flirting tips for guys to have the confidence to approach and flirt with any woman they choose.

Here are my 4 keys to flirting confidence. I suggest you read every word of this article and make these four flirting tips for guys a part of your life – because it will make a huge difference to your flirting success.

The first key is to STOP SECOND GUESSING WOMEN.

I’m sure you’ve done this many times before. You saw a woman you liked, you felt the initial rush of attraction, and then things started to come up into your mind, like, “She won’t go for me because…”

You became a mind reader! Why deprive the woman of the opportunity of making that choice for herself, or of surprising you or herself? Stop second guessing what a woman will or won’t like about you, because you won’t know for sure until you find out by approaching.

The second of my four flirting tips for guys is to CHANGE YOUR INTENT.

When we see a woman we like, as guys our imaginations (and desires) tend to go into overdrive. We place extra importance on this particular woman, and so we try and think up the perfect way of approaching that will ensure 100% success.

But because there is no such thing as a perfect approach, we then fear approaching in case we get it wrong! “I don’t want to blow it with her,” we think – all because we blew up the importance of meeting her in our minds.

Of course, by NOT approaching, we don’t get what we want ANYWAY… so why not change the INTENT, or reason for approaching.

When you see someone you like, control your thoughts, and change your intent. Instead of thinking about all the things you’d like to do with her, think like this…

“Let’s go have some FUN with this person. Let’s go and PLAY with her, and see if she is open and friendly.”

Approach with your only intention being that of making her day, and of bringing some fun into her life… and then be willing to just see what happens after that. You’ll be surprised at how, just by changing the INTENT behind your approach, it will be much easier to do.

The third key is to SMILE.

If your intent is simply to have fun, and make her day, then part of that is to SMILE. People are drawn to warm, happy people. You’ll be amazed by what a simple smile can do.

The fourth key is to change the MEANING of the OUTCOME.

Another reason guys hesitate to approach woman is they fear “rejection”. But let’s look at it from a different point of view.

Because I always approach a woman with the intent of having fun, being playful, and seeing how I can make her day, if she chooses not to get involved in this, then she is probably someone I don’t want in my life anyway. It is HER loss.

Can you see how this way of thinking, as well as being true, will serve you much better? This is my belief, and it works for me. I suggest you have this belief, too: “I never get rejected, I simply find out whether she has good taste and is smart enough to recognize someone who can bring fun into her life.”

Of course, as well as having these flirting tips for guys, it helps to know WHAT TO SAY to a woman to be able to start flirting in the first place. I don’t recommend pick up lines, because they don’t tend to work very often, and besides, there are far better things you can use to start flirting with a woman.

By: James Romero

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Are you interested with a guy, and have been going out with him but receiving mixed signals from him? Were you hurt because you misread those signals and did not know whether he wants to date you or not? Are you looking for ideas that will help you really know and determine if he does really want to date you?

Women are known to have a strong intuition on many things, especially in matters of the heart. It will help if you listen to your gut feel when you think the guy is just playing with you. Chances are, he probably is. If your intuition is telling you that he is interested, there are signs that will tell you. Let us start with three, and look for these signs in a guy before you make your move.

Does he flirt with you?

If the guy is flirting with you, he is probably trying to get his interest across. However, this is not a strong indicator, because there are many men who flirt just to get women to sleep with them. If he is flirting with you in a sweet manner, maintaining a level of respect, and making you feel all warm inside, and then he will be more likely to be interested to date you.

Does he make the first moves?

Men are born predators, and they like the thrill of the hunt. However, they really do not initiate the hunt if they are not that interested or not that serious. Most times, if they just want to have sex with you, they will wait for you to make the first move. Men will pursue you if they really want you. After the first date, the question always is, “Should I be the first one to call?” If you wait for him to call, and he does, then he really is interested with you. If he does not call again, and when you bump into him he blurts out excuses, then it means that he is not interested with you and is not worth your time. A man pursues what he wants, and if you let him, he will be even more interested in you.

Does he include you in his circle?

Men who are interested in you will be most likely proud to show you off to his circle of affiliations. Meaning, if he introduces you to his friends and family, he thinks that you are a dating material and not just a fling. This is a huge clue, because it means that he is proud of his choice, and that you are someone whom his family and friends will most likely approve of. If he keeps you to himself, and when he bumps into a friend while with you he suddenly moves a foot away from you, then beware. This means that he does not want to be seen with you.

These three hints and signals will give you clues on his real intentions. If you see these, and you find out that he does want to continue dating you, then you can go on ahead and encourage his behavior.

By: George Christodoulou

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