Relationships: Making Up Do’s and Don’ts

Learn how to earn her forgiveness, no matter what you’ve done

So my lady says to me the other day, “I love you just the way you are.”
How sweet, right? Well, hang on, it’s not that simple.

Throughout our experience there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship.

Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

We all make mistakes. We forget birthdays… We forget to pick a phone to tell we are a little bit late… We forget to tell about hanging out with guys and having a few beers…

Some of us might even — on occasion — check out other girls. (The nerve! Who would do such a thing?!)

Breakups follow Valentine’s Day like depression spikes on Christmas: Expectations are never met.

Unfortunately, the only surefire way to remedy this is by lowering expectations. Expect restaurants to be packed, not cozy; expect your jerk of a boyfriend to be a jerk and forget your favorite flower/gemstone/color.

He is a jerk after all. What do you expect? Still, setting expectations low isn’t much fun, now is it?

So occasionally we all have slip ups. I know it hurts and it’s never easy but… Friends, that is why the make-up exists.

Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship.

Here are a few handy do’s and don’ts to get you back in your lady’s good graces.

Do’s

Order or pick up flowers.
This CANNOT be too over the top. If you get a single rose, you had better have a smooth line like, “A single rose for my one and only girl.” Otherwise, the bigger the better.

Apologize.
Be specific. Not just, “Sorry about the other night.” Acknowledge exactly what you did that was wrong and repent for your sins. Beg, if you need to.

Put a little extra effort into the next date.
If you do dinner and a movie every Friday, moving it to Thursday isn’t exactly going to wow her. Something girly is in line. Go to a paint-your-own-pottery store and make mugs for each other. Is it lame? Yes. Will it earn you forgiveness? And then some.

Don’ts

Promise to never do it again, unless she demands it. We all know you’ll pass out naked on the front lawn again. Don’t kid yourself or your lady.

The second best way to stave off disappointment is to not be such a colossal jerk. Put some effort into getting/making a real card with ribbons and quotes from your private shared vocabulary (or whatever).

Don’t Facebook digital chocolates

… or send a Hallmark e-card. That’s for grade-A jerks that deserve to get dumped.

Don’t be an idiot with your virtual paper trail.
I feel icky giving advice to cheaters, but seriously you monkeys, get your acts together so my GF isn’t tempted to sneak into my email! The Mark Sanfords and Tiger Woods of the world need to stop using technology they can’t handle.

Expect make-up sex, or even a hug.
Take what you can get — and be happy she didn’t throw a vase at you.

Blame it on the beer, her hot friend, a dare from your buddy or anything else. Take responsibility like a man. It’s manly. And girls dig manliness.

So far, most of this article has been cautionary. Don’t do this, don’t tweet that. One nice development of the Internet though is that your exes probably put their pics up on Flickr or some other photo-sharing site and their vids up on YouTube. You should totally look at that crap. It’s hilarious.

You know that creeping regret you feel a month or two after breaking up with someone? This cures that. Unless he or she has moved on and started dating an investment banker/supermodel.

Try to mix and match your make-ups. It will keep her on her toes. Also, try to mix up your screw-ups. A distinct pattern of behavior will quickly dilute your make-up efforts. And besides, plaid and polka dots are patterns. Repeatedly peeing in the trash can is not.

Remember, once you have decided to enter into a long term relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own long term relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.