Flirting with girls can either be one of the best experiences that you can have, OR it can be one of those things that you want to avoid at all costs. Some guys really do have a hard time flirting with women and if you consider yourself to be one of them, you need to be able to “fix” this area as soon as possible if you want to suddenly find yourself dating like never before.

You have to be able to build attraction and create a connection with a woman if you want to be able to go beyond friendship and have the chance of dating her. You cannot expect for a woman to fall for you if you cannot seem to get yourself to flirt with her. You have to allow her to have a good time when she is around you and by flirting with a woman, this is HOW you are going to be able to make her feel this way about you.

So, what SHOULD every man know about flirting?

Here are some flirting tips that no man should be without:

1. You want to see her smile.

You want to know that she is having a good time when she is with you. The last thing that you want to make a woman feel is as though she wants to get away as soon as she can. You want to make her want to stay when she is with you and to do this, you have to keep her smiling. This is one of those sure signs that you are heading up the right path with a woman.

2. She needs to see YOUR fun side.

Serious may be okay when you are on the job, but when you are out with a woman, you want to be able to shed that serious side. You want to let her in on your fun side and let her see that when she is with you, times are going to be good. This is what will make her want to stay with you and get to know you better. Dating and flirting should be fun and you need to keep it that way.

3. You have to be able to go from friendly to flirty.

Starting off things with a woman, it’s okay to be friendly. However, if you want to take things in the other direction and start to get physical with a woman, then you have to be able to go from being just friendly to flirty. Now, this should be an easy transition so that it flows smoothly and seems 100 percent natural. You don’t want to be too obvious about what you are trying to do.

It’s perfectly natural to see flirting with women as something that you are not naturally good at.

Most guys really aren’t natural flirts with women. If you want to be able to go beyond friends with women, you have to learn how to make yourself become a guy that can flirt with women with no problem at all.

By: Chris Tyler

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Many men have this fascination with using great pick up lines to hook up with women. I’m pretty sure that you’ve heard and used quite a few of them already. But despite being old and used, why do men still use them? Do they actually still work?

Here are some examples of commonly-used pick up lines:

“Am I dead, angel? Cause this must be heaven!”

“You must be in a wrong place – the Miss Universe contest is over there.”

“Are you a magnet, because I’m so attracted to you…”

Great pick up lines are quick fixes especially if you’re a pro when it comes to using them. It doesn’t involve too much effort and brain work. If you can get away with it, why not use it right?

The problem is, not all men can get away with it. Most men think that pick up lines sound witty making them look intelligent and impressive. But women nowadays have gotten sick and tired of hearing the same lame lines over and over again. It sounds rehearsed and insincere.

Even if you think that you’re using great pick up lines ever concocted, we can’t deny the fact that most women find them cheap and common. Sometimes, even great pick up lines create an impression that all you want to do is to get her laid and this turns women off because it makes them feel cheap and easy. The whole process of attracting or getting a woman’s attention involves simple but well-planned steps.

Another way of attracting women is for you to communicate your value, confidence and authenticity. If they perceive you as someone they can rely on and someone who stands out and delivers when a situation arises, hooking up with them becomes easier. Women like the idea of being with a man they can talk to and not with a man who would just stay for a night and leave before the chicken crows. This is the kind of impression you need to communicate to them and using great pick up lines defeat the whole purpose.

If you’re groping as to what you have to say to a woman you just saw from across the room, just relax for a bit and spend a few minutes observing her. What is she wearing? What kind of book is she reading? Do you like the way she ties her hair? Gather information that you can use to create good conversation openers. For example:

“I really like that color/dress/necklace on you. I’d love to know where you bought it because I need to pick up a birthday gift for my friend Jen. I bet she’d love something like that.”

Other effective openers are those that pertain to relationships and cheating. For example:

“You girls look like experts…let me ask you a quick question. How long do you need to be dating a guy before you change the status on your Facebook page from “single” to “in a relationship”? Because my friend Jen has been with a guy for about a month, and his Facebook page still says “single”…and she’s not sure whether she should say something about it.”

Unlike pick up lines, these openers provide a good reason as to why you’re approaching her. At the same time, you affirm her good taste in fashion and intelligence, making it difficult for her to refuse to talk to you.
But you don’t deliver openers and follow it up with flirtatious licking of your lips or frantic flexing your muscles. It must be delivered in an offhanded manner, making it sound more sincere and natural.

I am not completely discounting the capacity of pick up lines to work. What I am trying to stress is, however, is that unless you’re a natural Casanova, even great pick up lines don’t work in many situation situations.

By: Dean Cortez

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It’s often been said that the key to success when it comes to attracting girls is how skilled you are at flirting with them. Though I don’t agree entirely with this being the single key to that success, I do agree with four of the finer points about flirtation and how to be good at it. It is a natural reaction to fear rejection. No matter how strong you are from an emotional standpoint, you still worry about this. With a lot of men, getting blown off by that beauty that you would love to meet can be devastating.

In a lot of instances, flirting comes naturally as if it were an inherent trait of a man’s personality. But with other men, it takes a little bit of due diligence when learning the art of good flirting. Here’s four tips to help you succeed.

Tip #1 – The most important aspect of flirting is your body language.

Research statistics state that her subconscious receives positive feedback about you when you spend 70% of the time looking into her eyes, and the other 30% looking at her mouth and the surrounding facial features. However, don’t let those looks of attraction and interest turn into an empty stare. That will blow you out of the water quicker than anything else.

Tip #2 – Try to smile every chance you get.

It’s a natural reaction in most women to feel apprehensive, insecure, and even a bit unsafe when they are first approached by a man. But if you are smiling when you confront her, she may be less apt to crawl into that protective shell that says “Leave me alone.” So if you say hello, do it with a smile and avoid that air of cockiness that so many men seem to think is the major attractant. Just remember that this is not their true feelings (most of the time). It is what I call a psycho-emotional response to a man’s approach — unless of course that you radiate obnoxiousness — in which case I hope she blows you off as rudely as possible.

Tip #3 – Be gentle in the ways that you tease with her.

When you talk about needing to be in touch with the sensitive side of things, another one of the biggest deal killers involved in meeting women is teasing too roughly with her. Teasing, if not done tactfully can progress from sweet humorous kidding around into razor-tongued cynicism in the blink of an eye if you haven’t done your homework. First and foremost, never start off by teasing her. It will give her the impression that seriousness is not in your vocabulary when it comes to relationships. Follow up every tease with a reassuring comment and a smile.

Tip #4 – Make her feel that you are just trying to get to know her — not that you want to take her to bed with you the first night.

It reassures her that you are truly interested in her, and that sex isn’t the most important issue in any relationship. Besides that guys, if you just want a sex toy, either go to the local porn shop and buy one, or rent yourself a hooker for the evening.

By: Scott Patterson

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There are two kinds of men in the world today, and I want you to meet them, because you’re probably one of them. Actually, you’re probably both, to a degree, but you are definitely more one than the other. Each of these two guys is single, intelligent, and generally a ‘nice’ guy.

What they do have is widely disparate ATTITUDES toward life. Allow me illustrate:

Bob is just an average guy. He goes to work, comes home, eats dinner. He hangs out with friends at happy hour from time to time. He generally hopes that good things will happen to him.

But Bob is passive. He doesn’t seek out ways to take charge and influence his world. Bob is too concerned with protecting his image of himself.

He goes out and meets women on occasion, but he finds the same pattern evolving: He meets a gal every once in a while, usually by luck. He’ll ask and get her number from her. He’ll call a day or two later, and usually get an answering machine. She never calls him back, and he ends up calling several times before he finally gets hold of her. She’s usually polite, and he’ll muster up the courage to ask for a date. She agrees, but when the day comes for them to meet up, she calls him and says she can’t make it. Or she stands him up. Bob then looks at this as being yet another reason women are unreliable, and he starts to get self-righteous. He’s doing everything right, and THEY are acting all weird. It must be them, he figures.

And his passivity increases. Why bother trying if you just get shot down every time?

Dave on the other hand is average, too. But he rises above the average because of his attitude: Dave is active about his life. He takes the wheel of his life and steers it where he wants to go. He knows that if life isn’t going the way he wants it, he has the power to make it happen himself.

He doesn’t sit back expecting his abilities with women to succeed; he actively seeks out opportunities to try and learn from his interactions. When he fails in a seduction, he looks back on what he could do differently, not scared that making a mistake means he’s unworthy as a man.

Dave understands that when a woman acts a certain way, it is usually something he could influence with his approach and attitude. While her rejections do not mean anything to his worth, he does know that he can change his approach and learn to decrease those rejections. The answer isn’t finding just the right woman as it is understanding what parts of him he can develop and present to get more women interested.

Dave seeks out information and guidance to learn and improve. He doesn’t let life happen TO him, he makes it happen.

These two men demonstrate the kind of men who eventually get dates and get laid, or the ones that get stuck in the Downward Spiral, becoming more bitter and avoiding women.

The only man who isn’t worthy of a woman is the one who isn’t learning from his mistakes and trying again. He picks himself up, dusts himself off, and tries until he succeeds. He only fails when he fails to keep trying and learning from his attempts.

So which of these two would you rather be?

Notice, I didn’t ask you which of them you ARE. All of us have elements of both men.

And it doesn’t matter in the end, because I’m giving you an opportunity that other people will never offer you in life: You can stand at this crossroads and choose to settle for whatever results you’re currently getting with women, or you can choose to take the path of action. You can learn and improve with your strategy and get more women.

Or … Well, I think you know what lies down that road.

Don’t be the man sitting in front of the wood stove who says “Give me heat first, and THEN I’ll throw in the wood.”

By: Carlos Xuma

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Learn to be a cocky and funny guy. Every guy tries the same approach. Guys get her a drink, kisses up to her and attempts to make her like him day after day. Making a girl like you can be tough, men attempt to buy a girl’s heart and think it’s possible to make her desire them.

A man can’t make a female intrigued with logic. You must be a bit bold. If you can add cocky funny to your personality, you’ll have much better chances picking up girls. Cocky funny pick up lines don’t work by themselves. If you lack confidence, it’s not worth trying pick-up techniques to get women. You can learn all the dating techniques you want. You can mimic Neil Strauss and Mystery all day, however you’ll still do bad when it comes to getting women because they’ll see that you’re not really confident deep down inside.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel self assured at this moment. Anyone can learn to have confidence. You can go from a complete wuss to a man with tons of confidence in less than a week. It’s true, With the right mindset you can actually make yourself confident. My main dating advice for guys to follow is just to have a true belief in himself. You have to get yourself squared away out first Girls won’t like you if you don’t really believe in you. You can spout out cocky funny pick up lines all day, but first make sure you believe in yourself.

By: Robert Dolce

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